Family


the three mugs

In which the author prepares to leave his home of twenty years and reminisces about his past with the help of three, rather unremarkable coffee mugs.

Having garnered a position as a student at a well-to-do university somewhere across the Atlantic, I found myself in the prickly dilemma of having to pack my entire life into two, under-50-lbs suitcases (thank you very much Air Canada) and leaving for England.

Unfortunately, for someone as ‘hobbity’ and fond of comforts as me, knowing what to pack and what not to pack is a monumental task.

Take, for example, my mug situation. Every avid coffee or tea drinker knows that the selection of the proper mug is key.

But actually, a mug means so much more than the delicious caffeinated goodness it may contain. Oh yes. A good mug symbolizes comfort. It represents a good home. And above all else, a good mug tells you a lot about the person holding it.

Blue Mug

But with very limited room and weight for my possessions, I have to pick and choose.

Thus, it’s essential that I pick the right kind of mug. A mug that evokes poetic images of my hometown. A mug that subtly hints of my childish and rumbustious upbringing. That pains me with twangs of unrequited love and past heartbreak. And of promising futures.

I have four of them. Four mugs, each with truly revealing, utterly riveting stories. Each symbolizing a different aspect of what I’d like to bring to my new home.

Now one of these mugs — which, if you’re the attentive sort, has been a constant companion throughout this blog (look up), I’ve already decided to bring. And the story, though certainly of interest and certainly revealing, is one I’m not too eager to share. Let’s leave it at that.

And so without further ado, I present to you the three contestants.

The First Mug: Mickey and Pluto

Mickey Mug

This mug, which has a cartoon picture of Mickey Mouse and the lovable Pluto dozing off was a gift from my parents for one of my birthdays. Knowing them, it was probably bought at a second-hand store.

Of the four mugs, it’s the most unexciting, and uninteresting one.

But it’s a symbol of the warm comforts of home. It makes me remember all those times I spent sipping coffee at home, studying diligently, while constantly being peppered with intrusive interruptions by my mom.

Roz Doyle, from the TV show Frasier once asked, “Why is it so easy to love your family, but so hard to like them?” She hit the question right on the nose, and I’m not sure what the answer is, or even if there is one.

It’s not a mature mug, of course. It’s a childish and homely. But it does brings back comforts of Ottawa and of my suburban home. And that’s why I like it.

The Second Mug: Hillcrest High School

Biscotti

One day, when I’m lying on my death bed, I’m going to revisit the fondest, most memorable times of life. And high school, well, high school will most definitely be on that list.

To me, it’s not strange to admit that my final few years in high school are considered the high points of my existence.

I had everything. I had friends from all types and backgrounds — some of whom have continued to form the core members of my troupe. I was close to many of the teachers, and able to laugh and joke with them as I did with all my friends.

I was academically at the top of my game — in a time where you could be at the top of your game. Homework and school projects were always an output for my creative brand of humour and satire, with many presentations breaking out in song and other variations of silliness.

I was an avid athlete, competitively trained in track and field and at one point, National Capital champion in the triple jump. In gym class, I got to run around like an idiot, playing dodgeball, basketball, or whatever was offered on that particular day.

I was in love. Infatuated and silly. Hopelessly romantic.

But that’s what teenage love is all about, n’est-ce pas?

I was naive and still possessing boundless energy and that youthful outlook on life kids enjoy but never fully appreciate. Most of all, I was coming out of my shell. Sure, I was still awkward, but I was learning. Learning fast.

It’s all gone downhill since then. Not in the typical sense, of course. In many ways, I’m more successful than I ever was. I’m older, smarter, and have a pair of documents that proves to the world I have enough academic training to put the average girl to sleep on a date.

But I’ve lost a lot of the magic.

I’ve lost that balanced, jubilant lifestyle I once enjoyed.

That’s what this mug means to me.

The Third Mug: Overbrook Public School

Overbrook Mug

Almost nobody can tell you anything about Overbrook Public School.

That’s because there is no Overbrook Public School. At least not anymore. It was shut down half-a-decade ago.

But even when there was an Overbrook Public School, it was hardly noticeable.

The school taught kindergarten through grade 6 — which was unusual since most primary schools that bother going up to grade 6 are capable of accommodating grade 7 and 8 students as well. Tiny was not the right word to describe Overbrook.

It was minuscule.

It had about 300 or 400 students and a handful of teachers. Everybody knew everybody and that was that. The gymnasium, I still remember vividly (but not all that fondly); the roof was perhaps 12 feet high, which meant the basketball nets where 7 or 8 feet off the ground. You literally had to lob the ball horizontally, otherwise it would bounce off the roof.

No wonder our school was always creamed in basketball.

Me? I was there from grade 4 to 6, but only because the school offered a unique French Immersion program. The thing is, nothing really happened when I was a student there. I was a pretty normal, run-of-the-mill kid. I was quiet, bright, athletic, but not unusually so. Girls thought I was awkward and a total nerd and geek (oh, how things have changed…), but at that age, they still had cooties and I had little interest in the fairer sex.

So in the end, that’s what this mug — a prize for my Grade 6 speech on Amelia Earhart — represents: my humble, quiet, and terribly unexciting past.

Your see, I have high hopes for some of my friends and acquaintances. I think some of them will go on to lead wonderfully successful lives. Make buckets of cash. Marry beautiful men and women. And then invite me to summer in their waterfront homes and lend me keys to their flashy sports cars.

But wherever we are, whatever we may do, it’s important to remember that most of us come from humble beginnings. Some of us attended tiny, unremarkable schools, and, at least initially, led wholly unremarkable lives.

Because, really, it’s all about the journey.

Sis

Whenever I’m stressed, I post pictures of cats.

That’s a fact.

So here’s another. This time of my sis and her furry companion.

Do you see the family resemblance? I sure don’t. I think we share similar noses, but while she has these wide innocent eyes filled with hope, playfulness, and all that good stuff, I have these awful squinty things that are filled with, uh, squintiness.

She looks a lot like my mom and dad. Me? I look, well, a bit Canadian-afied.

Something went wrong along the way I guess.

Man, I really can’t write in my current state.

Happy Mother’s Day.

Mom's Bouquet

Edit: For those who asked, this was indeed taken with the new lens. What a beautiful bokeh! I can’t get anywhere near this kind of blur on my fastest lens, a 50 mm at f/1.8.

Sorry for all the technospeak. I get carried away sometimes.

I was married.

In my dream, I mean. I was married, except to who I can’t remember. I don’t think I ever saw her.

Or maybe I wasn’t married. Maybe I was just living with that girl.

How quaint.

In any case, it was freakin’ domestic, man. Like, her parents were there. And they were doing laundry. My laundry. Why would my wife’s parents be doing my laundry, huh? Isn’t there something seriously wrong with that picture?

Obviously my dream-self didn’t think so. He was totally oblivious to the awkwardness of it all. In fact, I think he liked it. Typical.

You probably think there’s some hidden plot twist coming up, like how my wife went all Glenn Close and Fatal Attractions on me, but actually, this was a dream entirely devoid of any point.

Except maybe to show me that married life isn’t all that bad. It’s nice. It’s warm and cuddly. Like, y’know, those Nestle Tea commercials where everybody huddles around a fireplace to cook smores and open Christmas presents.

It was like the perfect family. Her mom was real nice and obviously a great cook. And I think we had sausages for breakfast. Or was it lunch?

I bet it was brunch, because that’s what perfect families do: they have sausages for brunch as a family.

And you know the best part?

I was happy. Happy doing nothing. Happy living a domestic life.

Happy to talk to my wife’s mom while she did the laundry.

My laundry.

What the hell?

This is of course the exclusive concert introduced in my previous post.

Exclusive Ticket

Those of you with slower connections and less time may opt out and download the mp3 file of the entire Concerto in one go.

Concerto No. 1 in B-Flat Minor: Allegro Con Spirito
played by TQT

Right click the mp3 here
Select save-as (16 mb, 22:55)

But who wants to do that?

Wouldn’t you rather be there yourself?

Wouldn’t you rather smell that musty and creepy odor from the couple sitting next to you, or feel the hot stickiness of your seat cushions?

Or I bet you’d like to enjoy the incessant coughing of an audience member mid-performance in full DOLBY DIGITAL SURROUND SOUND (okay, not really).

Do yourself a favour and watch it instead. And then download the mp3.

Because all the cool kids are doing it.

By the way, if your connection isn’t fast enough, the videos will stutter. The way past it is to press play, then pause, then leave it to load. Years of maintaining a pathetic internet connection have taught me such indispensible tidbits.

Tchaikovsky Concerto No. 1: Part I [13.1 mb, 0:00 - 4:30]

Tchaikovsky Concerto No. 1: Part II [14.8 mb, 4:30 - 9:37]

Tchaikovsky Concerto No. 1: Part III [13.7 mb, 9:37 - 15:13]

Tchaikovsky Concerto No. 1: Grand Finale [20.5 mb, 15:13 - 23:46]

Yes, this will probably be one of the only times I’m going to feature a YouTube embedded viewer on my blog.

Hope you enjoyed the concert. E-mail me and let me know what you thought.

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